Today I got a text from one of my good friends, that she wants to end up everything and run. I called her, but she couldn’t talk. I texted her back and asked her to calm down and speak to me whenever she could. As a short-term relaxation therapy, I asked her to go for a brisk walk, often n release of energy helps us to get rid the of negativity that surrounds us. Later when we talked over the phone, she frowned. She had issues with work life, a non-supportive/non-earning husband, a little daughter to take care and no support from parents. To give you a slight background let me tell you that she is highly placed in her job and does wonderful work, she earns decent. But the bottom line is she isn’t happy. I talked to her for an hour, I wanted her to vent out everything that she was carrying inside her. She is better, I am going to see her soon and talk more.
Often while we are well off in life in terms of money, job, relationship, one thing that we often miss out is, happiness and peace of mind. I am sure to survive it is necessary to run after your work, take care of our kids and family, but often we get a little less in return which curses us. Today I want all of us to take a pledge that whatever be the situation, we must take care of one person always in life and that is you yourself. Yes! don’t expect anyone to pamper you.
Let me put it in easy words:
- No one loves you more than your parents, but they will not be with your whole life. This is a harsh reality.
- Your siblings will get busy with their families.
- Your husband will be always focused more on your children’s future so he will not love you as he did in the very first days of your relationship.
- Your kids will grow up and get busy in their own circles.
- Your job will not support you if you aren’t well physically and mentally.
Hence, It is important that we should focus on our self-more than anything else, because if you are not well how do you expect to be there for others, which you need to. Most important, ever demean yourself, love yourself, people normally get more inspired with positive happy vibes. Be a happy vibe for someone.
STAY HEALTHY AND EXERCISE
Eat healthy food, it helps immunity and makes you stronger to fight the battle you are on to. Take little steps, dance while you are cooking, do simple exercises while you are on your work desk, walk more, use stairs and drink lots of water.
YOU ARE SPECIAL
Keep yourself in priority, admire yourself. Remember people will automatically love you if you love yourself. Be a happy Vibe.
DRESS UP AND CHIN UP
Dress up and look good. It will keep you motivated and happy
through the day. You cant avoid the fact that one compliment automatically boosts you onside, so why not attract more. Dress up good always.
Don’t stress more about work. It is just a part of your life, it is not your entire life. The mess at work happens, but don’t bring it home. Leave it on your office desk. It is inevitable, and it will come back again, so you need not ruin your life after it. Always remember if you get any kind of physical/mental disability, your office won’t entertain you more. So, stay healthy mentally.
Take 5 minutes from your busy calendar every day and make a practice to meditate. Trust me it is important. Do you ever miss to take a bath? No right, similarly it is important to take a mind bath, clean unwanted thoughts and only keep the required material. Make it practice.
VENT IT OUT
Whenever you are in a problem, talk it out. Don’t carry grumpy baggage inside your brain. It will only ruin your positive vibes and make people hate you more. Talk to some trustworthy person, or else write it down, it is easy and remains secret. I am sure days after when you will read it back you will realize how did you fought with the situation and managed to survive, and to be honest it only ads to motivation.
I am sure these things will help you in daily life. Share more and more with your friends and I would be pleased to have your feedback and experiences with regard to this. I am sure together we can help each other.